Spirits Talk To Spirits
The dragonfly represents joy, love, growth, the dream state, and many other positive things in several cultures worldwide. (image ©2023 henrycoen.com)
When something unusual happens three times in one week, I tend to take notice.
A friend had been in my brain for a couple of days. There is always a reason for this. It means I need to call. This person is a good friend, someone important in my life, but not one I talk with on a weekly or even monthly basis. We also live on opposite sides of the country.
I wanted to give the call the proper attention and fell into the trap of waiting for the right moment. I don’t know how I still fall for this mental trick. There is never a right time that just comes along as if it arrived serendipitously on a spiritual conveyor belt, delivering a moment void of all distractions. The right time has to be created. It’s a choice. A choice I failed to make so I went through a couple of days with good intentions and no action to create that moment.
On the third day, my friend called me. He needed some time to connect. I did too. It was a good and needed talk for both of us. I took note, at least I thought, to act on those impulses.
A few days later, I was talking to someone else about a situation that needed some attention. Yes, I’m being intentionally vague because it's actually a long boring story that’s also none of your business. Anyway, a person that would be able to help with some much-needed expertise related to the situation came to mind. I was not in a rush to call. Later, another situation came up that could also use expert advice from the same person. This person is a friend and understands me, but I still didn’t rush to make the call. We talk very seldom though it is good when we do.
Yes, this person also called me out of the blue shortly after the second situation needing their advice came up. It was a very productive talk.
A day later, I was talking and joking with a group of people. I told a story about a friend I hadn’t seen or talked to in seven months. The last we saw each other, it was brief. We had grown apart considerably due to proximity rather than a change in anything else. While I was in the middle of the story, I received a text. I didn’t look at my phone until after I had finished talking with everyone. When I did, it was that friend passing along something he knew I would like. He was reaching out.
I was reminded of a concept that was explained to me years ago - spirits talk to spirits. I have seen this idea attributed to Carl Yung, but I don’t know for sure where it comes from, and I’m not going to research it, so that’s what you get.
The idea that spirits talk to spirits is exactly as it sounds. Our spirits talk to each other. That’s a pretty serious level of nonverbal communication beyond body language or tone, and unlike those nonverbal cues, this level of connection is not limited by distance. I have also come to believe it’s not limited by time or even death.
If someone has been popping up in my thoughts, especially if when they arrive there, I have an emotional response of wanting to let them know I’m thinking of them, it's time to call. The only reason why I wouldn’t is being unable to invent a reason for the call. But that’s the problem. I already know the reason for the call. I was thinking about them. But I feel silly saying that and instead attempt to come up with some bit of business that needs to be handled or a problem that needs a solution. And after I have this reason to call, I think I am only then worthy of taking them away from their busy day to answer. And maybe I can slip in nonchalantly that I was also thinking of some story that may have involved them.
Days can pass in this process. And eventually, the feeling fades. But not this week. The people I thought of also thought of me coincidently at the same time. Only they took action on it.
Whenever I have called someone, even men who are certainly not the overly open or emotional type (like myself), and simply said, “I was just thinking about you. How’s it going?” two things have always been true. First, it’s not at all awkward. In fact, it turns out that simply telling the truth feels natural and puts others at ease. Second, and I have realized this to a profound degree, they needed a call. Maybe they even needed a call from me specifically. I have found this to be overwhelmingly true when I act on the impulse to call someone nudged by the seemingly random voice within. The results have moved the concept of spirits talking to spirits from the belief to the know category for me.